Young Kenyan men are pushing for changes to the traditional bride price practice, as revealed by a survey conducted by Mwelekeo Insights.
This survey shows how economic challenges and shifting social norms are driving new ideas on how to handle bride price in a way that respects culture but fits modern realities.
Bride price has long been a key part of Kenyan culture, where the groom’s family pays the bride’s family in money, livestock, or other valuable items as a sign of respect.
But rising costs and financial pressure have made it harder for many young men to meet these expectations, leading to calls for alternatives.
According to the Mwelekeo Insights survey, 53% of Kenyan men still support the tradition of bride price, seeing it as an important cultural practice.
However, 47% oppose it, largely because of the financial strain it causes and concerns about gender equality. This divide reflects differences between generations and regions: older and rural men tend to favor keeping the tradition, while younger, urban men are more open to reform.
Many young men suggest practical changes to make bride price more manageable.
One popular proposal is cost-sharing between the bride and groom, with about 65% supporting this idea. This shows a move toward gender equality, though 35% disagree and believe the responsibility should remain with the man.
Another widely accepted proposal is gradual payment over time, supported by 83%, allowing couples to avoid large upfront costs and easing financial burdens.
This is especially important given Kenya’s economic challenges and the impact of financial stress on marriage stability.
Some also suggest replacing traditional bride price with symbolic gestures like modest gifts or mutual agreements.
Bride price has a long history in Kenya, symbolizing respect and family bonds. However, economic realities have made it difficult for many young people to afford the traditional payments.
Movements calling for reform are not new; as far back as 1965, some young Kenyans criticized bride price as “institutionalized blackmail.” Today’s debate continues to balance respect for culture with financial realities.
Despite legal efforts to reform marriage laws and reduce the obligation of bride price, the practice remains widespread, especially in rural and pastoral communities. The challenge lies in finding solutions that honor tradition while making marriage accessible and fair for all.
The Mwelekeo Insights survey shows that young Kenyan men are looking for ways to adapt bride price to today’s world.
Proposals like cost-sharing, gradual payments, and symbolic gestures offer a middle ground between cultural respect and economic practicality. This ongoing discussion reflects Kenya’s evolving society and the desire to make marriage a joyful, achievable milestone for everyone.
